PERFORMANCE ISSUES

I’ve dealt with sexual performance issues at times. What guy hasn’t? I also have major social anxiety at times, and find some situations very over-stimulating and uncomfortable.

THE PANDA ROOM CAN BE VERY OVERSTIMULATING, EVEN FOR ME!!!!!

My body image also didn’t make me feel sexy which can also cause performance problems. I don’t have the best looking body and now I’m having sex while a lot of people are watching me.

I sometimes have a problem expressing my problems or issues, and often keep them inside or let them eat me apart.

What you don’t see at these events, is I am often hiding in my personal room and decompressing for a little bit before I get back out there to do what I ultimately love and want to do. I want to have fun and I love making people smile and laugh. Life requires balance, and this is how I stay leveled out so my body and mind can both keep doing what they want to do.

However, when you see me in the Panda Room in group situations, or dancing my ass off on the dance floor in front of everyone, or walking around in tiny ridiculous outfits with my “ dad body” very exposed, or walking around the hallways with a raging boner, you may think I look like a very confident person. I am a balanced person, or at least I try my best to be. It’s about progress, not perfection.

CLEARING THE AIR AND SHARING SOME TIPS & ADVICE

All too often I have heard many ladies complain, or talk bad about, guys not being able to perform when it comes time to actually play. Often the ladies will get self conscious, and think its something they did, or something about their body.

Ladies, this is not true!!!!! You are beautiful, but it’s also not always about you.

There are a lot of complicated puzzles pieces that us guys need to have under control, and manage in these situations.

THAT BEING SAID, US GUYS NEED TO STEP OUR GAME UP, AND KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!!!

There is a lot about Male Physiology that can act as an obstacle at Lifestyle events that you women may not know about, or ever thought about. The same goes for the men who may not have put all these pieces together just yet. A lot of times men/couples will drink alcohol to gain that “liquid courage” at events, and it's not until later in the night when the moment finally feels right, or because you are running out of time to make a move. But by then a fine line gets crossed where maybe they have had too much to drink and feel sick, or have the dreaded “whiskey dick.”

There can also be performance anxiety where maybe something makes them feel uncomfortable in that situation, at that time. Sometimes guys may feel a little insecure if the swapping male partner has a bigger dick, or if the guy is already rock hard, and they still aren’t ready to get involved. Now he knows 3 people are just waiting for him to get hard. Sometimes male bodies can be overheated and it’s very hard to keep an erection if you are overheated.

We can’t just put lube on our dicks and be ready to go like you can if you have a pussy.

Ladies, start with your partner first and do whatever it takes to get them hard and ready.

Guys, if you already know some of these things or tips I am about to share, then be a good dude and bring some extra “helpers” if you can to help the struggling guy out. The Boy Scout Motto is “Be Prepared.” Another fun fact, I am an Eagle Scout.

It becomes a mental game which can be very hard to overcome at times, because it’s a negative downward spiral where now they feel they aren’t good enough. All of these things have effected me at times over the years, but I’ve done my best to try to figure out solutions.

What a lot of you may not know when you see me exposing my body, or walking around with a rock hard boner, is a lot of it is not natural. I am using an enhancer of some sort, but these moments are therapeutic for me to overcome my own personal issues and feel empowered.

Guys, I use viagra at most lifestyle events & about 2 years ago I started using the dick shot (It’s not as bad as it sounds & the results are amazing and empowering). You will fuck like a sex god for several hours. It takes a lot, if not all, of the pressure off of you, so you can enjoy your drinks and be ready to join in the fucking when that time comes. I have the option to use either one of these, or I can just be my natural self without anything. It’s nice to be able to have choices!

Even though my own ego says I don’t need these things, sometimes things happen where now I am in a situation where I can’t perform and I feel like I have disappointed my own partner or someone else’s partner. No male ever wants to feel inferior in the bedroom.

I partially take these enhancers for myself, but I also do it for the ladies, because ultimately I am a giver and I want to give to whoever my partner is, and make sure they get all the enjoyment they are seeking when they selected me to be a sexual partner.

Guys, think about it: girls use so many enhancers on a daily basis. They color their hair, or have fake hair. They use makeup on their faces. They use fake eye lashes, and they have fake nails. They have had boob jobs, or tummy tucks……but they want a “REAL MAN” LOL. Ladies I'm kidding, learn to laugh at yourselves!!

We appreciate a lot of these things and enjoy them. So why can’t us guys do the same?

Again, it’s ok to ask for help, or use something that helps you be the best version of yourself.