OWNING YOUR SEXUALITY

I (Mike) am Bisexual. This is often looked at as a negative thing in the lifestyle. A lot of this is due to social conditioning and what was considered “wrong” for a lot of men with society growing up. Let’s also add in Toxic Masculinity as well. For many years I never openly identified this in any of our profiles because I feared it may turn some couples off (specifically straight guys) because they think I might try to do something with them.

Just because a guy is gay or bisexual, it doesn’t always mean they want to have sex with YOU!!! Lol

I also didn’t do a lot of bisexual play in general because I didn’t fully feel comfortable doing it at the hotel parties in the Panda Room. I didn’t want others to feel uncomfortable or risk saying anything negative.

However, a lot of guys love and prefer bisexual women at these events. How is this fair?

Let’s talk about sexual statistics and probability. There are 8 billion people in the world. Let’s just say 50% men and 50% women just to simplify things. Now let’s say it’s pretty safe to assume that 1/2 of the 50% of women fall into the LGBQT category.

Why is it so hard to believe that the same applies to men? Let's be real here folks, really real!!!

Another fun fact guys, there are a lot more women than you might think who find this a turn on, and would love to see stuff like this. Some girls even masturbate to gay male porn.

Too many men are forced to live in the closet because they fear what people might say about them, or how they might be viewed. This is just terrible in my eyes.

If you have done this to someone in the past, I challenge you to change your perspective and mindset moving forward.

If you have held back from doing something you wanted to do or try in the past, I challenge you to change your perspective and mindset moving forward.

If you feel trapped and want to come out, just know that you are not alone, and there are plenty of people just like you, and you might already be friends with them. You just don’t know it yet, because neither one of you felt comfortable admitting it or letting it be known to the world. Let’s peel back those layers and reveal your true self. The version of yourself where you are the happiest and most content.

Let’s do our best to let everyone be their true selves and live their best lives, because you never know how long they may have felt trapped by this.